Southeast Asian Americans represent a remarkably diverse group with varying ethnicities, migration histories, and religious backgrounds. Remember that your Southeast Asian American students likely have experiences quite different from their East Asian American peers. While some Southeast Asian Americans have a strong sense of how their heritage has shaped them, others may be less conscious of this influence. Beyond learning individual student stories, take time to understand the history of their communities and ethnic groups. As you learn, you’ll begin to recognize the valuable contributions your Southeast Asian students bring to your community. Here are some considerations to help you serve these students.
1. Live life together
Building trust with Southeast Asian students starts with a willingness to share everyday experiences. This doesn't require adopting all their practices—simply showing interest in their world makes a difference. Students recognize and appreciate when you’re willing to take risks to know them better. Even a simple gesture like sharing a meal can help deepen your connection.
2. Ask about their family’s story
Family is central to Southeast Asian cultures. Some Southeast Asians typically maintain strong connections to their countries of origin, especially if they've immigrated relatively recently. One of the best ways to show a student that you care about them is to ask about their family, especially their immigration story. Share thoughtful observations about what you learn and be curious. These conversations may help students reflect more deeply on their own identities and values.
3. Honor their commitments
Southeast Asian students often have numerous academic and personal commitments. These mostly come from places of need as opposed to simple desires. Respect these responsibilities while encouraging engagement through gentle but consistent invitations that allow them to decline without feeling shame. Trust that these students are genuinely trying to connect with your community despite their many obligations.
4. Be mindful of “costs”
This goes beyond just finances (although that can be a reality). Recognize that invitations—to events, relationships, or leadership positions—come with various costs. Your Southeast Asian students may experience conflicts between these opportunities and their existing commitments and values. Be mindful of these tensions and consider ways to reduce these burdens on their behalf.
